Or the ‘imposter experience’ as I like to refer to it (‘syndrome’ makes it sound like I have a medical condition with a red rash on my body and I need to see a dermatologist!) And if you think you are the only one who is struggling to battle your itty bitty shitty committee, think again.
Have you ever had the feeling like you are going to be found out? And every accomplishment has been a fluke or a fraud? You are not alone.
I spent all of my life wearing T-shirts that said I didn’t fit in, that I didn’t belong and I downplayed my abilities always thinking that everyone is better than me. Coupled with low self-esteem, anxiety and lack of self-belief wasn’t a great combination for success.
I never felt like I belonged at work. Found that imposter stayed with me and popped up every time I was pushing myself out of my comfort zone. When I walked into a networking meeting or a boardroom that feeling of not belonging and feeling like an imposter came back.
Growth and comfort do not coexist.
Why do we do it?
Well, believe it or not, we are all human.
It’s a perfectly natural instinct to doubt yourself, it is what builds growth and skills after all. But what happens when this plagues your day to day life and stops you from reaching your goals? Then you feel demotivated and low mood start to creep in and let’s be honest, no one
is having any fun there. So how do we stop feeling like this?
Out-think your thoughts. Show them who’s boss.
They don’t deserve to live rent free in that head of yours.
We spend so much of our time thinking ourselves up into a frenzy that we become
solely incapable of doing anything productive, and it isn’t helping anyone.
So sit back. Take a deep breath and just think about this for a second. And ask yourself these
What is it you are supposed to be doing?
Why is it scaring you?
Why do you think you can’t do this?
What can you do to solve this?
Simply looking for the answers instead of working ourselves up into a frenzy is such a quick way of momentarily overcoming the itty bitty shitty committee.
Once you answer the questions rationally and think about your answers, you’ll start to understand that the only problem you had was the mind wall you built yourself.
You are fully capable of what you are trying to do.
There is no reason why you can’t succeed. To fully overcome imposter syndrome is about doing the deeper inner work as I have done with all of my clients. You can book your call here to ask me how.